Tuesday, September 23, 2008

Proposition 102

I feel very strongly about protecting the definition of marriage to mean the union between one man and one woman. I understand that some people do not share this opinion, including people that I love and admire. So here are some of the important reasons why I support proposition 102. These words are not my own but they do represent my thoughts: (Sorry this is so long but it has many good points)

"Those who favor homosexual marriage contend that “tolerance” demands that they be given the same right to marry as heterosexual couples. But this appeal for “tolerance” advocates a very different meaning and outcome than that word has meant throughout most of American history and a different meaning than is found in the gospel of Jesus Christ. Tolerance as a gospel principle means love and forgiveness of one another, not “tolerating” transgression.
In today’s secular world, the idea of tolerance has come to mean something entirely different. Instead of love, it has come to mean condone – acceptance of wrongful behavior as the price of friendship. Jesus taught that we love and care for one another without condoning transgression. But today’s politically palatable definition insists that unless one accepts the sin he does not tolerate the sinner.
The Church (The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints) does not condone abusive treatment of others and encourages its members to treat all people with respect. However, speaking out against practices with which the Church disagrees on moral grounds – including same-sex marriage – does not constitute abuse or the frequently misused term “hate speech.” We can express genuine love and friendship for the homosexual family member or friend without accepting the practice of homosexuality or any re-definition of marriage.


Legalizing same-sex marriage will affect a wide spectrum of government activities and policies. Once a state government declares that same-sex unions are a civil right, those governments almost certainly will enforce a wide variety of other policies intended to ensure that there is no discrimination against same-sex couples. This may well place “church and state on a collision course.”
The prospect of same-sex marriage has already spawned legal collisions with the rights of free speech and of action based on religious beliefs. For example, advocates and government officials in certain states already are challenging the long-held right of religious adoption agencies to follow their religious beliefs and only place children in homes with both a mother and a father. As a result, Catholic Charities in Boston has stopped offering adoption services.
Other advocates of same-sex marriage are suggesting that tax exemptions and benefits be withdrawn from any religious organization that does not embrace same-sex unions.
[17] Public accommodation laws are already being used as leverage in an attempt to force religious organizations to allow marriage celebrations or receptions in religious facilities that are otherwise open to the public. Accrediting organizations in some instances are asserting pressure on religious schools and universities to provide married housing for same-sex couples. Student religious organizations are being told by some universities that they may lose their campus recognition and benefits if they exclude same-sex couples from club membership. [18]
Many of these examples have already become the legal reality in several nations of the European Union, and the European Parliament has recommended that laws guaranteeing and protecting the rights of same-sex couples be made uniform across the EU.
[19] Thus, if same-sex marriage becomes a recognized civil right, there will be substantial conflicts with religious freedom. And in some important areas, religious freedom may be diminished.

How Would Same-Sex Marriage Affect Society?
Possible restrictions on religious freedom are not the only societal implications of legalizing same-sex marriage. Perhaps the most common argument that proponents of same-sex marriage make is that it is essentially harmless and will not affect the institution of traditional heterosexual marriage in any way. “It won’t affect you, so why should you care?’ is the common refrain. While it may be true that allowing single-sex unions will not immediately and directly affect all existing marriages, the real question is how it will affect society as a whole over time, including the rising generation and future generations.

Aside from the very serious consequence of undermining and diluting the sacred nature of marriage between a man and a woman, there are many practical implications in the sphere of public policy that will be of deep concern to parents and society as a whole. These are critical to understanding the seriousness of the overall issue of same-sex marriage.
When a man and a woman marry with the intention of forming a new family, their success in that endeavor depends on their willingness to renounce the single-minded pursuit of self-fulfillment and to sacrifice their time and means to the nurturing and rearing of their children. Marriage is fundamentally an unselfish act: legally protected because only a male and female together can create new life, and because the rearing of children requires a life-long commitment, which marriage is intended to provide. Societal recognition of same-sex marriage cannot be justified simply on the grounds that it provides self-fulfillment to its partners, for it is not the purpose of government to provide legal protection to every possible way in which individuals may pursue fulfillment. By definition, all same-sex unions are infertile, and two individuals of the same gender, whatever their affections, can never form a marriage devoted to raising their own mutual offspring.
It is true that some same-sex couples will obtain guardianship over children –through prior heterosexual relationships, through adoption in the states where this is permitted, or by artificial insemination. Despite that, the all-important question of public policy must be: what environment is best for the child and for the rising generation? Traditional marriage provides a solid and well-established social identity to children. It increases the likelihood that they will be able to form a clear gender identity, with sexuality closely linked to both love and procreation. By contrast, the legalization of same-sex marriage likely will erode the social identity, gender development, and moral character of children. Is it really wise for society to pursue such a radical experiment without taking into account its long-term consequences for children?


As just one example of how children will be adversely affected, the establishment of same-sex marriage as a civil right will inevitably require mandatory changes in school curricula. When the state says that same-sex unions are equivalent to heterosexual marriages, the curriculum of public schools will have to support this claim. Beginning with elementary school, children will be taught that marriage can be defined as a relation between any two adults and that consensual sexual relations are morally neutral. Classroom instruction on sex education in secondary schools can be expected to equate homosexual intimacy with heterosexual relations. These developments will create serious clashes between the agenda of the secular school system and the right of parents to teach their children traditional standards of morality. "


So you see, Prop 102 is not about discrimination, it is about protecting our families, our children and our society. For more information about why we should protect marriage go to: http://newsroom.lds.org/ldsnewsroom/eng/commentary/the-divine-institution-of-marriage

3 comments:

Patrice said...

I am so glad you took the time to look this up. Knowing the long-term consequences will surely help us spread correct principles!

Spence said...

I think it is absolutely about discrimination. A few quick points:

1) Marriage confers certain legal rights and benefits. Conditioning those rights on the gender of the parties involved is gender discrimination, and should be contrary to the Equal Protection clause of the 14th Amendment. If you do away with those legal rights and benefits, then there is no problem and marriage becomes simply a religious institution. That's fine by me, but until that is done, outlawing same-sex marriage is legally sanctioned gender discrimination.

2) You state that the purpose of marriage is to raise children. Yet we don't require fertility tests or an agreement to have children in order to give heterosexuals the legal rights they enjoy under marriage. Indeed, a lesbian couple is more able to have a baby than a heterosexual couple who are incapable of having children. Should we stop that heterosexual couple from getting married?

3.) You place a lot of reliance on the "negative social consequences" but don't provide any source of support except church authorities and speculation. This argument is baldly conclusory and no negative social consequences have been shown. It is far worse for a child to grow up in a broken home or with neglectful or abusive parents than in a loving homosexual household.

4. I think your most valid point is the possibility of government interference with religious practices. A friend of mine is currently trying to get an article published that draws a connection to the Mormon Church having its tax exempt status threatened if it continued to discriminate against blacks in the 70's. I think that was a mistake, and worry that similar things could happen if homosexuals get the right to marry. Still, if the Christian Right put half as much effort into protecting those institutions from government interference as they are putting into denying homosexuals the same legal rights they enjoy, it would probably be no problem.

To me, it mainly boils down to denying people legal benefits bestowed upon others strictly because of their gender. It is no different than when some states tried to prohibit marriage between blacks and whites and it is no less a denial of equal protection under the law. Either the government needs to get out of the marriage business altogether, or stop denying the legal benefits of it to some based on the gender of the parties involved.

Dan and Jan said...

1)How is outlawing same-sex marriage gender discrimination? It has nothing to do with gender.

2) The family unit, including father, mother and children has existed since the beginning of time. That is the standard and the optimal way to raise children. Just because there are some couples who can’t or won’t have children is no reason to scrap the whole model. A lesbian couple is no more capable of having children than a heterosexual couple, regardless of the infertility problems. One difference might be that we know from the beginning that the lesbian couple will not be able to produce their own offspring while the heterosexual couple probably won’t discover any fertility problems until after they are married.

3)On the contrary, negative social consequences for children have been studied and cited. If you do any searching (including the sources cited in the article I quoted) you will see that massive amounts of research support the family model of father, mother and children. While it may be true that it is worse for a child to grow up in a neglectful situation, that situation is possible in any kind of household, heterosexual, homosexual, or single parent. Again, that is no reason to discount the documented ideal model.

I believe the discrimination of marriage between blacks and whites is different because with a man and a woman (regardless of race), it still fits the optimal model that is necessary to produce and raise children while same sex marriages do not.